(Written by a Chinese/American who formerly taught physics in China)
My grandchildren live in Shanghai, and I miss them very much, as I only see them about once a year. When I decided to visit them this year, I took toys and homemade food they were fond of. The pastry I took is called "nanna's cake" by my granddaughter, and it's one of her favorites.
I arrived at their home at midnight, and the next morning they went to school and I went to my home so we barely saw each other.
We finally got together as we began our trip to Guilin two days later. At the airport, my granddaughter had wanted me to tell her stories so I told her two very short ones - "A Little Price" and "The Secret Garden". She liked them, but said that the last one she had heard before; her mother had read it at bedtime.
When we were in the plane, we talked about this being the year of the rat according to the lunar calendar, and she told me that she had been born during the year of the horse. She said that she had a lot of horses, as they're her favorite toys, and I told her that I had also been born in the year of the horse, too.
She was happy that we were both horses according to that calendar, and I counted up to four from the last year of the horse and couldn't believe that was her age. I asked, "Are you four years old?", and she replied, "No, I'm five.
I was confident that I had calculated correctly and told her that I had counted backwards from my present age of 88 and figured out that when I was 84 she was born.
Her parents told me that I was confused about my age - that I wasn't 88, I was 77. I thought she was wrong and said, "No, I'm 88."
My daughter-in-law smiled and repeated that I was 77 and said that subtracting her daughter's age of 5 would mean that I was 72 when she was born.
It was shocking to heard that I'd been wrong, and I was quite embarrassed. I wondered how I'd made the mistakes, but then suddenly remembered that back in America there had been other times when I had thought I was 88.
During the whole conversation, the children thought I was only joking.
My granddaughter likes to buy key rings and has a lot of them. Her mother says that she has become a collector. While we were in Guilin, we'd take walks after dinner, and each time - regardless of where we went - my granddaughter would buy them - sometimes two or three.
One day when she and I were out walking again, I said to her, "You are fortunate to have so many toys. I had none in my childhood." I added that her parents were very generous, but my parents had refused to spend money to buy such things. Children just didn't have as many toys then. She started to think that my parents must have been poor and said she would give me some money when we got back to Shanghai for she had a lot of it. That brought tears to my eyes, and I hugged her tightly - told her how much I loved her.
The day before I left Shanghai, she played on her scooter in the garden of the apartment building for awhile, and when she came inside, she told me about her school life and her friends. She's in an international pre-school program, and I asked if she spoke English there, as she only uses Chinese at home. She said that she speaks English so I asked her how to say "flowers", "trees", and various parts of the body. She had no trouble doing that and told me that communication with her classmates wasn't a problem. I was pleased that she was becoming so fluent in English.
We talked about a lot of things. When she said "one foot", I asked how many she had, and when she responded by saying "two foots", I said "You have two feet". She didn't think that was right and looked suspiciously at me. I said that "feet" was a very special word and that she could ask her teacher about it. She still looked confused, so I told her that I was once a teacher, but that I'd taught students much older than her classmates. She was interested in hearing stories about them, and we talked for a long time. Even though she didn't fully understand about high school and how I'd taught there, she was very proud of her grandma.
My grandson is 8 years old and had his first Holy Communion while I was there. It was on a Sunday in May, and there were 40 children in the church. Most of the boys were dressed in black suits and each girl wore a white dress with a veil.
My grandson is quite grown up now. He looks like a little man. His parents, grandparents, and I were happy to attend that special Mass. It was also my birthday, but our celebration was for him.
One of the afternoons I visited there, my grandson played a guitar for me. I wa surprised and happy that he had made so much progress. He said that he liked playing it and when his teacher came, he worked seriously with him.
That night he wanted to know how to play Scrabble, a game I'd given him, and I explained the rues. I also told him that I hadn't given him Lego because he already had lots of them and now that he was grown up he could learn to spell better by using Scrabble. He agreed with my opinion and then showed me some of his homework. That gave me a chance to read some of the stories he'd written, and see some of his drawings. He has an active imagination - just like his father.
I'm proud of my grandchildren and happy that their parents are providing them with such a good education.
Time flies so quickly. I was in Shanghai only one month; much too short a time, but when I left, I carried their happy faces in my mind back to Portland.